Unconditional what? You have got to be kidding me!

As a personal trainer 99% of the people that pay for my services want to lose weight. The most common question all of my clients ask me when I utilize different strategies to assist them to lose weight is "will the weight loss be permanent" and my answer is always the same. "If you stop doing the things that created the weight loss and you go back to all your old habits the weight will come back period." Now onto the topic at hand "Unconditional Love". Pardon the language but the idea of unconditional love is a bunch of shit. If you fall in love with someone because they are loving, honest, and your best friend and as the relationship progresses this person becomes mean, lies on a consistent basis, and you would rather talk to anyone in the world but them. Why on earth would you expect yourself to love this person unconditionally. Relationships are very similar to being fit and maintaining an ideal weight it takes constant work and dedication. The difference between my clients that get the results they desire and the ones that don't is attention to details, dedication and the ability to sacrifice when needed. I will use an example of two different clients and how their choices make a difference in reaching their goals or not. Client A is a picture of fitness and her clothes fit exactly the way she wants them to. She is confident and can't wait to go shopping because she feels good about how she looks. Client B seems to lose the same ten pounds over and over. She talks constantly about how she wishes she could lose 25 lbs. she makes excuses about her eating and she definitly doesn't look forward to shopping. Due to the fact, she can't buy the clothes she really wants to ,because she just doesn't look good on her and she knows it! Client A and B are friends and are asked to a wedding reception for a friends daughter. Client A knows that it is very likely that the food served at the reception. So she is proactive and: makes sure she doesn't go hungry, maybe even eats a small amount of protein before she goes, and once she is there realizes that the fun of the reception is communicating with others and not in getting caught up with eating foods that don't lead to her long term goals. Client B on the other hand: goes starving, definitely doesn't pre-plan her strategy of not overeating, and once at the reception feels like she has to eat everything on the menu to get the full experience of the reception. Consequently Client A feels great about herself and is optimally healthy and client B is uncomfortable with her appearance, is out of shape, and does not recognize she has sub par results because she lacks discipline and dedication to achieve her desired results. You ask how does this apply to relationships? Husband A has the same characteristics as client A: proactive, is dedicated to achieving his results (a great relationship with his significant other), takes the time to think ahead, foresees possible issues, and in general is honest with himself and what it takes to have a great relationship. Husband B is a clone of client B: goes through the relationship in a ho hum way, isn't dedicated to a desired result, and in general is not committed to having a great relationship. Being a great partner takes: desire, committment, planning, action, and most importantly concious effort on a daily basis. Great relationships like great bodies are not built overnight Keep reading my blog posts and I will give you the how's to building a great relationship!