The key to a woman's heart... Trust me

The easy part is to get a woman to fall in love with you. The hard part is keeping her in love with you for a lifetime. And there is no easier way to lose her heart than to lose her trust. Trust is very very unique.... As a society we create standards for everything and human behavior is no different. For example, if a child does what he or she is asked 95% of the time without arguing the child's parents most likely brags about what a good listener he or she is. If a man is tender and kind 80% of the time it would be fairly safe to say most women would describe him as a really kind and tender hearted man. A mother who is patient with her kids 75% of the time would most likely be described as a patient mother. If a child gets 90% on his or her spelling test the teacher gives that student an A. If a teenage daughter is home by curfew 99% of the time when she is late on ocassion her parents are probably pretty understanding. When you pay your bills on time 97% of the time you most likely have great credit. When a wife is in charge of the budget and 98% of the time is very frugal she is most likely viewed as excellent with money. And when a man is truthful in his relationship with a women 99.9% of the time he is a liar and cannot be trusted with her heart!!! Trust is unlike any other attribute... Like I said earlier if a man is loving, kind, generous, romantic, happy, determined, a great provider, in shape, funny, sexy, etc... He would most likely be described by his significant other as such. Not trust! If a man tells the truth 98% of the time he is most likely described as the biggest liar on the planet and not to be trusted. My advice to men - Be honest 100% of the time no matter how hard, painful, and devestating to your relationship the truth is do not lie!!! Women have an incredible ability to forgive if you are upfront and honest. But mark my words "If you lie and the truth comes out later" the chances of forgiveness for that particular act, event, situation are drastically reduced. Lets use an example: A new girl is hired at your work and you find her extremely attractive. You get to know her and she feeds your ego, finds you sexy, smart and makes you feel like your significant other used to make you feel. As each day passes you find yourself wanting to spend more and more time with this sexy new co-worker. You even start talking about her to your significant other on a regular basis. The first time you mention her name to your significant other the most likely response will be "Is she cute? Do you find her attractive? You idiotic response "She isn't ugly but not really that cute" One day your significant other drops in on you at work and she is greeted by the new girl and the second she puts the face to the name she knows you lied to her and even worse you know she knows. You get home and she asks you "so why didn't you tell me the new girl was drop dead gorgeous?" And like a dumb ass you say "I don't find her that attractive" "she is weird" and "she drives me crazy". Mind you that for the past 3 weeks you have probably said at least 3 things that your significant other would percieve as a compliment. Bustedddddddddd! From that moment on your life is a living hell of epic proportions you never thought possibe. Every time you are late, wear a different cologne, are happy, distracted, in a bad mood, unkind, go to work early, are unavailable to talk, etc, etc, etc... Your significant other will think it is all because of the new girl and your lack of balls to tell the truth. A better approach: Assuming you give a shit and you love your significant other the moment you felt an attraction to the new girl go to your significant other and say with love and kindness "I have something I want to talk to you about" and proceed to tell her there is a new girl in your office that you find attractive and that she makes you feel good about yourself. Don't hold back! In a loving, open and honest way let her know how you are feeling and why. Let her know you are telling her this because you love her and the relationship you have with her is very important to you. I can guarantee you as hard as this might be to hear for her your chances of forgiveness and more importantly the trust you will build will improve your relationship more than you can ever imagine. By being honest, the situation went from being potentioally devestating to your relationship to a situation of trust, honesty and open communication and intimacy that will elevate your relationship to a whole new level. Bottom Line: Being truthful is not something you can do 99% of the time and have a successful relationship. Being honest is not always easy but it's always the right thing to do no matter how hard it is... I believe there is nothing more impactful in a positive way than being honest 100% of the time!!! My advice to women: Don't ask me why it is one of the mysteries of the universe why most men have a hard time telling the truth. Be patient, kind and don't assume if the man in your life lies to you that he is lying about everything. I know for me growing up telling white lies to my mom was how I didn't hurt her feelings and didn't dissapoint her. I always thought I was showing her a form of love by not making her worry, dissapointed or angry. When I have lied in my relationships with women it hasn't been some big conspiracy or my master plan to be deceptive. I am not saying in any way I was right and justified in my behavior. I am simply saying look deeper than the surface a lie isn't always intentional and a way to hurt you...